I didn’t pass my coaching recording. So instead of pretending it didn’t affect me, I want to honour what this moment has taught me. I was on the way to build the foundations of my coaching business. But it was a great reminder of humility that guided me throughout this year 2025. I didn’t fully maintain the coaching agreement, and I didn’t go deep enough in evoking awareness. I found myself stuck in dealing with conceptions such as family members mentioned in a coaching conversation.
I’ve invested time, effort, practice hours, and heart into becoming the best coach I can be. Coaching isn’t a “task” for me it’s a calling. A calling must be followed by intuition and humility. Humility is very important to me. As I sat with the feedback, I realised this wasn’t a failure. It was a mirror. A reflection of where I’m still growing, sharpening, and strengthening my skillset. It also teaches me to surrender to the process.
I’m living a period of my life where so many things within me come up to the surface that help me to understand and guide me for my mission on Earth. Not everything is comfortable and it’s not about ruminating about the past. It’s about keeping learning about myself as I came out as a gay. Coaching is powerful and this is what will change the world!
Maintaining the agreement and evoking awareness
The maintaining agreement competency isn’t just about asking “What do you want to focus on today?” It’s about holding the focus, checking in, revisiting the outcome, and ensuring the session truly belongs to the client. So often I immediately drifted into the grow model. The lesson? The agreement is what anchors the coaching conversation.
Evoking awareness competency is the core of coaching. It’s where the magic happens the insights, the reframes, the shifts in thinking. I noticed that I spent more time exploring the story than helping the client see what was behind it. I asked good questions, but not the ones that truly opened new doors. The lesson? Coaching isn’t about understanding the story it’s about helping the client understand themselves. By asking open and deep questions, not focusing on the problem and helping the client move forward.
This didn’t knock my confidence; it refined it. It reminded me that mastery is not achieved through perfection, but through practice, humility, and continuous learning. Not passing doesn’t define my ability.
How I respond to it does. So today, I choose to respond with commitment, resilience, and the determination to grow into the coach I know I’m becoming.
The coach is not here to fix
As a coach my role is not to fix. I’m not here to offer solutions, give advice, or rush toward an answer. Coaching isn’t about directing someone toward what I think is right. The real power of coaching comes from support rooted in genuine curiosity. Genuine curiosity I have with people I meet. It’s the quiet, intentional presence that invites a person to slow down, think, feel, and explore.
I used to focus on the problems themselves: But I’ve realised that this approach limits the richness of the human experience. We are not problems. Humans are complex beings layers of beliefs, dreams, contradictions, histories, hopes, and fears. We cannot be reduced to a single issue or a simple fix. People are not puzzles to be solved. They are mysteries to explore.
Coaching is not about giving answers. When a coach becomes non-directional, they don’t become passive they become powerful. They transform into the best adviser a client can have: the one who advises nothing, but helps the client advise themselves. This is where growth becomes authentic. It’s where awareness, and clarity blossom.
Foundation – Relationship – Communication – Growth
What I’m living these days
These days, I’m learning not to listen to the old doubts and fears that still try to speak louder than my truth. For a long time, they shaped the way I saw myself. Coming out was one of the hardest and most liberating steps I’ve ever taken. Accepting myself as a gay man after years of silence, confusion, and inner conflict wasn’t simple. To be honest I even cried alone in the middle of the night. Time of accepting myself has come.
But it also opened many things I had kept sealed since childhood. Memories resurfaced, not to overwhelm me, but to be acknowledged at last. Growing up with medical challenges, surgeries, and the shadow of trauma wasn’t easy. Especially now, as the world remembers the first face transplant in my hometown, Amiens 20 years on. It brings back the reality of everything I went through the physical pain, the emotional weight, the psychological bruises that don’t show on the skin.
Add to that episodes of psychological and physical abuse in my childhood, and it’s no wonder that some days my heart feels like it’s carrying a history too heavy for one person. But the difference today is that I’m talking about it. I opened up to my mum with honesty, compassion, and understanding not to blame, but to heal. To share my truth without fear. To recognise that what I lived through shaped me, and that speaking about it is not a sign of weakness but of courage. My life experience every challenge, every scar, every moment of confusion or pain has given me a deep desire to help others grow. It reminds me how powerful it is when someone is truly seen and supported.
My story is not something to hide.
It’s the source of my strength.
And it’s becoming the bridge that leads me to help others find theirs.
What’s the way forward
These days, I’m learning the power of stepping back not as a way of stopping, but as a way of moving forward with intention. Pausing doesn’t mean I’ve lost momentum; it means I’m protecting the direction I’m heading in. Even in the quiet moments, I can feel the drive inside me, the deep desire anchored within me. Telling myself I’m ready to take risks.
Being part of the 2bLimitless alumni mentoring sessions has been a grounding force. I love connecting with people from different parts of the world, sharing experiences, learning together, and growing as a coach. It reminds me that I’m not doing this journey alone. I’m reaching out more, exchanging hours with other members, opening conversations, building relationships, and strengthening my practice one dialogue at a time. These connections fuel me. They expand me. And they keep me moving forward even when everything seems stuck.
So I carry on attending alumni sessions and doing coaching hours practice. Also focusing on what I can control and focusing on what I can control. Focusing what I have to improve in the short term. Once I’ll be ICF accredited I’ll see what’s the opportunities. Where I can find them and supported.
I’m learning not to stress or overthink about the future. It will unfold in its own time. My job is to stay grounded in who I am, take one aligned step at a time, and trust the direction I’m moving toward. When I pause, breathe, and stay present, I realise I’m already becoming the person I’m meant to be without forcing anything. I’m grateful with all what I achieved and where I am today.
